You would enjoy seeing your friends more often.
You want deeper relationships.
You may even feel disappointed that nobody has planned anything recently.
But have you sent an invitation?
It is easy to wait for someone else to make the first move. Being invited reassures us that we are remembered, wanted, and included.
The problem is that everyone may be waiting for the same reassurance.
Since we at A Step Above Style value your time, let’s get right into it.
Stop Treating Friendship Like a Test
“If they wanted to see me, they would ask.”
Sometimes that conclusion is reasonable. Healthy friendships need effort from both people.
But a lack of invitations does not always mean a lack of interest.
Your friends may be busy, tired, distracted, or uncertain about your availability. They may also be waiting for you to reach out.
Instead of quietly testing whether someone remembers you, create an opportunity to connect.
Make the Invitation Specific
“We should get together sometime” is a pleasant thought, but it is not a plan.
Offer something the other person can answer.
Try:
- “Would you like to have coffee Saturday morning?”
- “Do you want to take a walk after work Thursday?”
- “I am making dinner Sunday. Would you like to come?”
- “Are you free for a phone call this week?”
The invitation does not need to be expensive or elaborate.
It only needs a clear activity and a reasonable time.
Do Not Make One Answer Mean Everything
Someone may decline because the timing does not work.
That is different from rejecting you.
If the person suggests another date, accept that as interest. If they repeatedly decline without offering an alternative, you may need to direct your energy elsewhere.
One invitation provides an opportunity.
A pattern provides information.
Do not wait forever to feel chosen. Sometimes connection begins when you choose to reach out.
ASAS Words of Wisdom
Become Someone Who Creates Connection
Sending the invitation involves some vulnerability.
The other person may be unavailable.
The plan may not happen.
But waiting also carries a cost. It can leave both people lonely while each assumes the other is uninterested.
Reach out to the person you have been meaning to see.
Suggest the meal, walk, call, or simple visit.
Friendship needs reciprocity, but someone still has to begin.
This time, let it be you.
Who have you been waiting to hear from? What invitation could you send today? Let us know in the comments.
Until next time, y’all have a good one.
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