Recently I was able to meet someone who I consider fascinating.
This gentleman was the epitome of a lot of character traits I find valuable in a person.
So today I want to show you how I believe he became fascinating, and how you can as well.
The Traits
The gentlemen I got to spend time with is probably not the kind of person you might assume I would want to be around.
He is 58 years old, to my mere 28 years. He has 2 children, while I have none. He lives on the upper East coast, while I live in South Texas.
Nevertheless, he has many traits I find valuable in a person. Once I recognized all these traits were in one individual, I immediately began to find more ways to be around him. The following are some of the traits he has:
- Great listener, doesn’t interrupt people when they are speaking
- Super polite, always held doors open for men and women, allowing them to go through the door first
- Knew a lot about history, both American and other countries
- Was financially sound, and thought through his purchases
- Always dressed for the occasion
- Took care of his physical health which included working out regularly and eating healthy
This is not a exhaustive list, but it gives you a good idea of why I wanted to be around him so much.
Despite our differences, I knew this is someone I wanted to learn from, even if our time together would be brief.
Now I’m going to tell you how I believe this gentlemen was able to become so fascinating.
Living An In-Depth Life
The reason I felt this man was so fascinating is because he lived each day of his life in-depth.
“To live an in-depth life simply means to get the most out of each and every experience. “
Working At Microsoft
This man has worked for several companies during his career. He had stories to share about working at Microsoft and having meetings with the then CEO Steve Ballmer.
His understanding of software and operating platforms was well above that of the average man or woman. What’s so special about this you ask?
He hasn’t worked at Microsoft in years. So he isn’t needing those skills on a daily basis anymore.
But while he was there, he soaked up as much information as he could. He was an in-depth employee.
His Rolex Watch
One of the things I noticed right away was the watch he wore on his wrist. It was the one you see pictured above.
And for those curious, this watch is priced at $10,600. When I first saw it, I was surprised because he was wearing it during a fairly casual dinner.
But I noticed throughout our time together that this was the watch he always wore. Day after day he had this same watch on.
(This is in stark contrast to the average person who may only wear such a expensive watch on certain occasions.)
This gentlemen was a in-depth shopper who got the most out of this watch by routinely wearing it each day. He loved having it, so he had that experience each and every day.
Life In Iraq
Another job this man had was working in logistics. Before you say “what’s so special about that?”, I should mention he worked in logistics in Iraq.
As if being in a country that was hostile towards the United States wasn’t enough, he was also there for 2 whole years.
Rather than complain about the violence, climate, and overall unfcomfort he was experiencing, he decided to learn as much about the area as he could.
During our time together he quizzed me on geographical knowledge. He made it fun, and really had me leaning on my high school education to try and keep up!
It was astounding how he knew so much about countries in the middle east, Africa, and even our own United States. This gentlemen did a great job of being an in-depth learner.
Conclusion
While I could go on and on, I believe you likely get my point by now.
The way you become fascinating is by getting the most of each moment in your life and being prepared to share those moments with someone else.
The gentlemen I met felt like his life was ordinary. So when I told him I found him fascinating (at the conclusion of our time together) he almost tried to talk me out of it.
He didn’t feel like he had much to offer . In contrast , I couldn’t get enough of talking to him!
In conclusion, my point today is that the things you routinely do will be very interesting to someone out there.
And if you want to be a attractive person (in the sense of people wanting to be around you) take time to live an in-depth life.
- Be observant
- Be kind
- Be a great listener
Until next time, yall have a good one.
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